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To
conquer emotional eating is the secret to
stop wrecking your life for every time you
go to put on your clothes, the uncomfortable
reminder of those excess pounds is there
like a wrecking ball flying through space
and hitting you square in the stomach. But
what do you do when that ice cream sundae
cries for consumption? And the little voice
inside your head asks, “What's one more ice
cream cone going to hurt? After all, you
haven't had that much to eat today!”
Then there's that other little voice that
mumbles, “you're not really serious about
losing weight,” and leaves a deposit of some
guilt for future put downs.
The internal argument is totally about the
ice cream cone and nothing about what's
going on emotionally. And what's going on
emotionally is totally what the ice cream is
all about.
What might the emotional factor be? It could
be any number of things and it's usually
connected with events in one's life that
works out the way we desire them to or not.
Yes, when the job gets done to your
satisfaction or when you hear good news from
home you're likely to feel happy and
accomplished and notice an empty spot in
your stomach crying for the satisfaction of
a treat.
And yes, when your supervisor criticizes you
for a job not so well done or you get bad
news from home-the third time your son has
been in the principle's office-you're likely
to feel frustrated and unappreciated and
also notice an empty spot in your stomach
crying for the satisfaction of a treat.
Whichever happens the same result is
realized in that the empty feeling gets all
the attention and the feelings of happiness
and or frustration gets ignored. Yet, it's
dealing with the happiness and or
frustration that are key to leaving food and
the empty feeling in the stomach out of the
mix. Instead food is used to dilute these
feelings.
But, what do you do with happiness and the
feeling of accomplishment? And what do you
do with the feelings of frustration and
being unappreciated? You sell them out for
food and they are skimmed over like skimming
a flat stone on a pond-they eventually sink
disappear beneath the surface of the pond
and join the hundreds or thousands of others
stones already there building a mountain
under the surface.
Tony Robbins in his Get the Edge Program
suggests that there are up to ten different
reasons for each emotion that you feel and
he proposes a plan to analyze each of them
to get at the bottom of them and how you
handle them. However, this may be highly
impractical because electrons travel in the
brain at the speed of light and by the time
you begin to analyze, the flat stone is half
way across the pond.
First, it's important to recognize that we
are emotional beings and rather than do
something with emotions it's more important
to ask yourself a simple question, “Can I
let it be that something did or didn't work
out as anticipated?” If you can let it be,
you can let it be and there is no resultant
emotion. However, often times before you can
think to ask this question, the flat rock is
already in hand and the emotion is there.
Instead of throwing that flat stone, the
answer is to ask yourself, “Can I let it be
that I feel (the emotion)?” Focus on the
feeling-good or bad-with the knowledge that
when you allow you to feel the feeling, it
goes away. Celebrate the joy or happiness or
learn from the frustration, for as Tony
Robbins also says, “Frustration is a call to
action.”
Whichever it may be, feel it and the
feeling/s disappear, the flat stone returned
to the ground and food is forgotten.
When the emphasis is on food, all you get is
guilt instead of an opportunity to celebrate
joy or be called to action to handle a
problem.
An effective approach to conquer emotional
eating involves asking important questions
"What is missing here? Why are you not
getting the results you've been promised?"
It is clearly insane to keep dieting when
the results are so poor. It's more important
to gain a grasp on how to stop emotional
eating--eating emotional stress than it is
to read the scale. Besides focusing on the
scale doesn't empower you to be a better
more enlightened person, whereas learning
how to overcome emotional eating empowers
you in all aspects of your life. If you're a
sales person, you'll be a better sales
person. If you're an assembly line worker,
you'll be a better assembly line worker; a
mother, a better mother... Overall, you'll
build self worth and find that what you
really want to eat is far more nutritious
and less in quantity than you ever before
imagined possible.
To conquer emotional eating is the secret to
stop wrecking your life for every time you
go to put on your clothes, the uncomfortable
reminder of those excess pounds is there
like a wrecking ball flying through space
and hitting you square in the stomach.
Richard Kuhns B.S.Ch.E., NGH certified, a
prominent figure in the field of hypnosis
with his best selling hypnosis and stress
management cds at
www.DStressDoc.com
and
www.PanicBusters.com.
His aim is to make it possible for anyone to
manage emotional binge eating. For more
information please visit
www.dstressdoc.com/BingeEatingEbook.htm
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